by Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen Ph.D., D.D., LL.D., Litt.D.
Every Person carries within his Heart a Blueprint of the One he
Loves. What seems to be "Love at First
Sight" is actually the Fulfillment of Desire, the Realization of a Dream. Plato, sensing this, said
that all Knowledge is Recollection from a Previous Existence. This is not
True as he states it, but it is True
if one Understands it to mean that we already have an Ideal in us - one which is made by our Thinking, our Habits, our
Experiences, and our Desire. Otherwise how would we know Immediately, on seeing Persons or
Things, that we Loved them? Before meeting certain people we already have a Pattern and
Mold of what we like and what we do not like, certain persons
fit-into that Pattern, others do not.
When we hear Music for the First Time, we either like
or dislike it. We Judge it by the Music we already have heard in our own
Hearts. Jittery Minds, which cannot long repose in one Object of Thought
or in Continuity of an Idea, Love Music which is Distracting, Excited, and Jittery. Calm
Minds like Calm Music: the Heart has its own
Secret Melody, and One Day when the Score is
played the Heart answers, "This is it".
So it is with Love. A Tiny Architect works inside the Human
Heart drawing sketches of the Ideal Love
from the People it sees, from the Books it reads, from its Hopes and Daydreams, in the fond Hope that the Eye may
One Day see the Ideal and the Hand touch it.
Life becomes Satisfying the Moment the Dream is seen walking, and the Person appears as the
Incarnation of all that one Loves. The liking is
Instantaneous - because, actually, it has been there waiting for a Long Time.
God, too, has within Himself Blueprints
of everything in the Universe. As the Architect has in his Mind a plan of the house
before the house is built, so God has in His
Mind an Archetypal Idea of every Flower, Bird, Tree, Spring Time, and Melody. There never was a brush touched to canvas
nor a Chisel to Marble without some great pre-existing idea. So, too, every Atom and every Rose is Realization and Concretion of an
Idea existing in the Mind of God from all
Eternity. All Creatures below Man correspond to the Pattern
God has in His Mind. A Tree is truly a Tree because it corresponds to
God's Idea of a Tree.
In Marriage too, Love begins with a
Dream. As a French author put it, "To know a Woman at the Hour of Desire, one must First respect her at
the Exquisite Hour of Dream". Love then is an
Act of Faith, a Declaration of the Unseen as the Real.
If Ideals are not High, if the Blueprints of Love
are not Beautiful, then the Marriage
itself will not be Beautiful. As some Minds
can listen to the Barbaric Tom-Tom of Anti-Music, so there are Hearts that can be
Satisfied with a Body without a
Soul. Hence the need of a Moral Preparation
for Marriage. Saint Francis de Sales once said that
"in Marriage, one takes a Vow. But it is the only instance where a Vow is taken without a Novitiate. If it
had a year of Novitiate, how few would enter into it". The Novitiate of Marriage
must necessarily embrace Two (2) Elements:
The Spiritualization of Personal Lives in order that the
Sublime Architectural Blueprint of Life's Partner be Formed within,
And a Constant Prayer, that God Himself
will Dispose Historical Conditions to make the Dreams come True.
With Marriage and its Ripening with the Fruit of Love,
there will Dawn a new Understanding that everyone carries with him a Blueprint of the one he Loves,
and that One is God. The Other Partner, then is seen as
the Lord's John the Baptist, preparing-the-way and
making-straight His Paths. God was just Half
seen through the Flesh, but thanks to Life's Companionship, one becomes more and
more Attuned to the Divine Fork that gave the Original Melody on the
Love which began as Passion, then became an
Act, and now in the Autumn of Life becomes once again a Desire born of Memory; the new
Passionless Passion strains at the leash-of-life to be one with Life,
Truth and Love. The Words of
Our Lord now repeatedly come to their Minds:
"Those who are found Worthy to attain that Other World, and Resurrection from the Dead, take neither Wife
nor Husband". That means that Sex, which reflected the Animal Kingdom,
will not exist in Eternity, but Love,
which is a Reflection of God's Unbodied Essence,
will remain their Eternal Ecstasy.
There will be no Faith in Heaven,
for we will already See;
There will be no Hope in Heaven,
for we will already Possess;
But there will always be Love. God